Overcoming & Starting Over

February 1st is a big day for me. While I began walking through an unexpected phase of life prior to this exact date, today I specifically celebrate one year of overcoming being forced out of a situation I didn’t know I needed saving from. One year of trying to conquer my deepest valley and the darkest season of my life. One year of battle, fighting to gain my strength and joy back. One year of suffering through a very emotionally draining experience that sucked the life out of me and even my family. One year of heartbreak, grief, mental and physical exhaustion, and sadness. One year of big changes, scary transitions, too many gut wrenching tears, and learning how to be on my own again.

Never in my life do I want to feel the excruciating heartache and pain again that I felt one year ago today when my husband of almost 3 years, my best friend for almost 8 years… did not choose me, but instead chose a life and future that did not include me in it, and that was the last day I saw him. The details of what I went through months before this and even after this day will remain private-no need to share all the personal details…but I lost my entire world that day. It was flipped completely upside down. And those 48 hours I will never forget. I felt dead inside.

While I still don’t have the answers as to why things like this happen and never will, I do know that God is faithful and His plan for me is much greater than what I ever expected. Somehow, through every battle I fought through the hellhole that was the end of my marriage, through the separation, through the divorce, after the divorce, through the healing… I still had my faith, I still found hope, I still found joy, and I still believed in the kind of love that I know I deserve. I deserve the very powerful UNCONDITIONAL love that I know exists and I know I will get that at the right time. I still believe in the sanctity of marriage- no man will take that away from me. I still believe in my fruitful, fulfilling, bright future. I believe that the ingredients to finding joy after your spirit has been crushed is a lot of: prayer, surrounding yourself with loved ones, positive thinking, and seeing a therapist. I believe I went through all of the things I wouldn’t wish on anyone FOR A PURPOSE. If God wants to use ME for good, to help others through similar challenges or with healing, then I am blessed. I want to be His hands and His heart in any way possible and if pain is what gets me to the next level to really take action and do His work, then bring it on, Jesus! I am resilient AF and that has been a really incredible thing to learn about myself. While I am still healing, repairing my heart, rebuilding my little world of glitter and sunshine, and learning how to survive on my own solely through my faith with the support of my selfless amazing family- I have never been more confident in who I am, in my relationship with the Lord, or so sure of the amazing things I am built for and called to do.

Most of the year I felt ashamed and embarrassed of what happened. I was so happy for so long with this person and then all of a sudden everything changed and while I still had to come to terms with a shocking reality, I also knew people were going to question my situation, judge me for it, and talk about it… while also feeling completely defeated and trying to overcome rejection, abandonment, and betrayal from the one person I trusted most in this world. Then I realized WTF. These feelings all relate in some way and it’s all about feeling the need to have other people’s approval and acceptance. But reality is- this is MY life and nobody cares about MY life as much as I do and I don’t need anybody’s approval but His.

This experience has been humbling and enlightening in many ways. THIS is blooming. THIS is developing the wings. THIS is the climb. If you’re in the same boat as me or maybe just starting to feel that wave about to smack you in the face… you are not alone. But it’s up to YOU to steer the boat, to take that wave to the face like a champ, to fight and never give up. You were meant to be going through the pain, you were meant to experience whatever is happening in your life right now. And you will come out more powerful and joyful on the other side. God will never steer you wrong and will never stop holding your hand. It’s easy to question, “WHY THE HECK is this happening to ME!?”, but we may not understand until something better comes into our lives and makes everything in our past make so much sense. We might not ever understand, but just have to trust the path He has taken us down.

I want to let you in on a special, magical little moment that happened to me on this day last year, something I will always hold close to my heart and hopefully lift someone’s spirits. A God moment. A message clear as day. When I woke up on February 1, 2020, I was alone on the couch in silence and I already had a bad feeling about what the day was going to bring. I turned to my devotional, February 1st. And here was my message…

Need I say more? WOW. Right after that, everything happened, everything changed. My life took an abrupt turn, I was equipped for the strenuous climb, I have been preserved in all my ways, I feel His angels over, and now I know it for sure- “with my God, I can scale a wall.” SO much truth behind that.

Opening up about this life altering season feels freeing in a way. I have held back from being too personal and open with people and on social media since October 2019 when things started to become difficult in my marriage. Then all of a sudden I had to make him disappear, clear him out of my business and my life. It was like everything went from 0-100 and all of a sudden I was hiding a big piece of my heart because it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to share and I wasn’t ready for it. Now it’s on my heart to be more open, connect with those who can relate, support those who need it, and share my story in ways that allow you to really get to know me on a deeper level. Through sharing my story with select people over the past year, one thing I’ve learned is that I am definitely not the only person who has experienced something like this, who has experienced divorce at a young age. Our stories are all different, but we all have A LOT in common- we all got married expecting to be with that person for the rest of our lives and then it ended in disappointment and heartbreak. A lot of us never considered divorce an option, like EVER.  A lot of us feel like the most special and sacred moments of our lives were taken from us. Most of us are just praying we can heal from the trauma and find the really one true love of our lives. We are just human, trying to move on and remain optimistic for our future. We can ALL connect on many different levels, no matter HOW it happened. Friends, don’t be afraid to reach out, don’t be afraid to share your heart with me, because trust me- it’s not easy and writing this wasn’t easy either, but it IS therapeutic and good for the soul. I am here for you when you need someone.

Thank you for reading if you’ve gotten this far, thank you for being a part of my life and my business, and thank you for the support as I am still rebuilding WHILE rejoicing. Hugs to all ❤️

Xo, Remy

Knowing Your Worth

Do you know your worth…? Have you ever really thought about that before? Have you ever been put to the test about knowing your worth? I always knew what that question meant, but I didn’t know the true meaning of it until I had to step away from all the things I was doing and really take a look at myself. I had to dig deep, I had to be honest with myself, and I had to make some changes.

It feels good to be valued, doesn’t it? But it feels terrible when you’re not. When you are just starting to understand your worth, it can still be hard to make confident decisions about what you’re doing, who you’re working for, or how you’re being treated. After starting my photography business, I had to make some tough decisions. There were times when I just didn’t think I was worth as much as something or someone else, but then I grew to know my value. I have been challenged and tested time and time again. Certain situations and people have come in and out of my life by way of soul-searching and contemplating whether I was adding value or having it taken away from me. There are jobs, moments and people that are put into your life for a reason… they force you to soul-search, test your will, and grow.

I’m sure a lot of you have been in positions where we have felt undervalued and been given unfair circumstances. Let me tell you… I have been there a few times. After a while, it gets tiring. I am all for working hard, going above and beyond, and making a sacrifice for the greater good, but when I don’t get the appreciation or respect I feel I deserve, I begin to feel a lack of value as a whole. After a full year of going full-time as a photographer, I am now confident enough to say that I KNOW my worth. I know what I deserve and I know how I should be valued as a person and photographer. I decided I will no longer give away my hard work, time, and my personal space to a situation that doesn’t create value for both sides. I know that each and every one of you wants to feel that you earn value when you make an investment, and I believe everybody should dig deep to find that source of positive gain.

Now, think about it… Are you also confident enough to say the same? Do you know your worth? It took me a solid year in business to figure it out and I continue to work on it daily; maybe you need some time to figure it out, too. Take a step back, give yourself the time to really think about how far you’ve come in your career. Look at your business and your life. Are you getting what you know you deserve? Think about why you think you should be valued, and the changes you might need to make. Are you making sacrifices that seem unfair? I can tell you now, it’s okay and it’s going to all be worth it in the end. These things happen for a reason… to make you stronger, to teach you how to speak up and stand up. When you’re sacrificing and doing the best you can, you should be so proud of yourself. Just know that the right thing at the right time will be placed in front of you and it will pay off. You are always rewarded in the end.

Sometimes it seems impossible to get out of a situation or lifestyle after being committed to it for so long. I know, I’ve been there too. Weirdly enough, every time I put it in my head that I belong somewhere else or I don’t feel right in a position, I start making natural changes that push me in the right direction and I end up exactly where I need to be. Doing the right thing is never the easiest decision. It takes strength and courage to speak up for yourself and it takes hard work to make your worth a reality. Just know your value and don’t let that slip away from you. When it comes time for a change and you’re ready to step out, that will be your moment. It makes the world of a difference to know your worth and be confident in your strengths.  If you don’t recognize your worth yet, maybe you need to make some changes, or maybe you just need space to grow. It takes time to really know and feel it, but I just wanted to get this thought into your head.

With faith, comes joy.

So have a little faith, do the right thing for yourself, and remember you deserve to be valued and you deserve to be happy!

xo

A Heartwarming Sibling Session

Sessions like this give me so much life! This group of siblings drove an hour to get their first ever professional photos done with me in Richmond. When they first arrived at the location, they were a little quiet and really cold. It wasn’t the warmest day and it was pretty breezy, but at least the sun was shining! Within minutes of taking these photos, they began warming to the camera and started having fun together! You can see and feel SO much love, care, and joy in every image of this session. This group of five sisters and a little brother obviously love each other with every ounce of their being. They made my job easy and we had the best time. My favorites are definitely the group hug in the grass with everyone laughing- it gives me all the feels! The littlest one is literally the cutest and these girls are stunning!! Nothing is better than a family who truly loves each other and enjoys being with one another. I just love this group of sweet and beautiful people, I will never forget this session!

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xo

Valentine’s Day Minis

YOU GUYS!!!! I am so excited to announce that for the first time, I will be offering…

Valentine’s Day Mini Sessions!!!!

 

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COUPLES:

Grab your honey because it’s time you get some updated, romantic pictures for this Valentine’s Day! Whether you want to surprise your man or woman with a fun portrait session as a gift, or maybe use this as quality time to love on each other in front of the camera! You might have caught on, but I LOVE love, I can’t say it enough. This year I really wanted to celebrate love with couple’s that want to do the same!

LADIES: 

Celebrate with your gal-pals, too! Get all dolled up with your best girlfriends and do something different this holiday season!! Valentine’s Day is about LOVE whether you have a partner or not! So grab your besties, throw on some red lipstick, a cute dress, and let’s celebrate friendship! 

 

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WHAT? 20-minute session with your significant other or your bestie(s)! Go casual with some flannels and sweaters, or get fancy with formal dress wear. This is your time to get those updated photos you’ve been wanting and have some fun with it! 

WHERE? Richmond, VA (exact location TBA)

WHEN? Thursday, February 1st   OR   Friday, February 2nd

INVESTMENT? $150 for 20 minutes (20-30 images)! Photos will be sent via digital gallery before Valentine’s Day!

**Full session fee is required when signing the contract to book/reserve your spot. Session fees are non-refundable if canceled within 30 days prior to session date. Rescheduling is possible by request depending on photographer availability.

BOOK NOW!

 

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Surprise Proposal at ECU!

I’ve been waiting too long to share this special day on the blog! Morgan and I had this ECU graduation session planned for a long time. Just a few days before I was going to meet her, I got a (secret) phone call from Morgan’s soon-to-be sister-in-law, Jenna. She informed me that Morgan’s boyfriend, Alex, was planning to propose at the end of the graduation session!!! Naturally, I freaked out with excitement and couldn’t wait for the big moment! Jenna and I came up with a solid plan and we were ready for the mission! 🙂

When the session/engagement day arrived, I met up with Morgan just like any other graduation session would start. I was introduced to some family members and Alex, who “just wanted to come along” for the session. Little did she know, they were all there for the big surprise proposal… but, I will let the pictures tell the rest of the story.

This was easily one of the best moments I was asked to be a part of through my business. I mean seriously, I love having a role in major life celebrations, and this was a BIG one. There’s nothing like seeing love explode right in front of your eyes and seeing that moment being shared with the people who love them the most. It was incredible and yes, I literally cried. In front of everyone.

Thank you, Morgan and Alex, for allowing me to be a part of this time of graduating at ECU and getting engaged to the love of your life. This is the most exciting time of your life, and I hope you enjoy every moment of it! CONGRATULATIONS, wishing you all the love and blessings in your future!!

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Wilmington Couples Session

Austin and Christian are SO in love that I can’t stand it! I love watching these two grow together in so many different ways. I met Austin while working in Cape Hatteras, NC a few summers back. She has the sweetest soul and the kindest heart! I met Christian when he started visiting Austin throughout the summer during her internship. They were too cute together and it just made my heart happy!! I just LOVE love, obviously… 🙂 When Austin was graduating from East Carolina, she asked for me to take her senior pictures and I was thrilled!!! She was one of my first ECU seniors before my business really started to take off. Two years later, I’m taking romantic and fun couple’s pictures for these two cuties who found their new home in Wilmington, NC. Finding and living in a location that you love, with the person you love, with jobs and people who give you happiness- that’s something to celebrate! Love this couple and love this Fall shoot!!

When Austin was graduating from East Carolina, she asked for me to take her senior pictures and I was thrilled!!! She was one of my very first ECU seniors before my business really started to take off. Two years later, I’m taking fun and romantic couple’s pictures for these two cuties who found their new home in Wilmington, NC. Finding and living in a location that you love, with the person you love, and with jobs and people who give you happiness- that’s something to celebrate! Love this couple and love this Fall shoot!!

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XO Remy

Downtown Petersburg Couple’s Session

Remember when I did a fun giveaway for a couples session when I launched my new website!? These two newlyweds won, and it couldn’t have been more amazing!!!! After getting married in July, they both moved to Virginia, all the way from California! A romantic and joyful photo shoot in the new city was a perfect way to celebrate their big move! Adjusting to a new state and being far from family and friends can being SO stressful and really hard. I’m happy we could do this to give them a small break and take a little tour of Petersburg! We met up downtown and I was blown away at how adorable it was!! They made my job incredibly easy while loving on each other the entire session!

THANK YOU to the Kirchers for entering my giveaway and being a joy to work with! Xo

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XO Remy

Sara + Brian’s Family of FOUR

This family is so sweet and adorable- I can’t stand it!! I met Sara and Brian a while back through my brother and sister-in-law. I was so excited when Sarah asked me to take her maternity pictures! She is one STUNNING mama and she is glowing in these photos! I’m so happy she decided to bring her husband and son along for some family shots because they are TOO CUTE!!!!

Maternity sessions are one of my favorites because it’s such a special experience that only happens once with that child. There is something so beautiful about the look on a mother and father’s face when looking down with their hands wrapped around the baby bump. I can just tell exactly what they’re thinking in these moments… it warms my heart to feel all that love while freezing that moment in time and being able to deliver a gallery like this.

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XO Remy

My Introduction!

Hi everyone! Welcome to my very first blog post!!

I’m so excited to start this new journey so that I can really begin growing this passion and business of mine! Normally I would think to myself, “nobody actually cares what I have to say..nobody is going to read it..most people will just laugh at me..nobody takes me seriously..” But now, I’m saying “GOODBYE negative thoughts, GOODBYE fear, and HELLO to an encouraged, inspired, first-time blogger, Remy!”

Name Rant: Yes, my name is Remy and no, I’m not a dog. I swear, I have met ONE human (a boy) and 10 dogs named Remy. This can get pretty weird when the dog isn’t behaving and the owner is yelling at it… No, Remy isn’t short for Remmington. Yes, I despise the movie “Ratatouille” because the rat’s name is Remy and now every time someone hears my name they think of a rat…that’s awesome. Also, the famous lines I have always gotten when I introduce myself: “ohhh, like Remy Ma?”…”ohhh, like Remy Martin?” Yep, you got it! 🙂 But anyway, I just wanted to get the name questions out of the way. Now for the real introduction!

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Photo by Blessed Beginnings Photography.

I am a Portrait Photographer currently located in North Carolina, yet always willing, and even hoping, to travel! I grew up just south of Richmond, VA, graduated from East Carolina University in 2014, and found love on Hatteras Island, NC (that’s a whole other blog post). My best friend and fiancé is a super cool, part hippie, dread-head, surfer, musician, fire-spinner, who can-basically-do-everything,  and he’s kind of my total opposite (and I love him for that).

I’m an obsessed Aunt to the cutest nephew on the planet! I’m inspired by my crazy, New York, Italian family, who I love to death and miss 24/7, even though they live 3 hours away (that’s sad). I most definitely have an obsession with pink. I mean.. you know you have an obsession when you are separating your laundry and realize you have an entire pile for just the pink clothes and then still believe you don’t have enough pink in your life.. I LOVE pink. It’s just so pretty and girly and fun!!! 🙂 Other things I really love: white chocolate mochas, vanilla chai, flowers, candles, LOTS of pizza (I mean like, a LOT of pizza), sunsets, and adventure. Oh, and I can’t forget my sweet pup, Behr. He sleeps all day, every day and I love his cute cuddles more than anything!

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I’d also like to share that I cry at just about every movie because, well, I’m emotional. The Biase’s are an emotional bunch. I wouldn’t have it any other way. My parents are amazing and taught me how to use my emotions in the best ways. This is where it gets juicy… Being emotional is what makes me care a weird amount for just about every person that comes into my life. I care a lot, I pour my heart into everything I do, and I love to love. Love is what we LIVE for. Some may not think so, but I do. Love is to give, to sacrifice, to serve. Love is real and raw. Love is what we share with friends, family, co-workers, strangers, and yourself. Love is what this world thrives off of! Love is everything. And that’s why I was called to study hospitality management in college. Hospitality is practicing friendliness, kindness, welcoming, and serving. No, I’m not always the perfect example of hospitality, I constantly face lessons that humble me; but my heart is in this industry and I want to use it to spread love and light to the world. Ultimately, I feel that light shining through the most when I am celebrating with my clients during a session.

I believe in celebrating each milestone in this wild life. I find passion in sharing your love story, popping the champagne because you’re graduating, showing off your first baby bump, and remembering each minute of every special moment.

I think you probably know me a little too well by now, and that’s fine with me! I can’t wait to begin this blogging journey with a fresh post each week…I already have so many ideas that my head could explode! Expect a little bit of every topic of my life and an inside look into all my portrait sessions coming up. I’m so happy you’re joining me on this exciting adventure! Have a topic you want me to share about in the future? Email me with suggestions, I’m open to anything!

XOXO, Remy

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Photo by Hope Taylor Photography.